How I turned being an Empath into my super power

Empath is a word that is widely used now within the 21st century. Every second post that you read on Facey will have either be about an Empath or 5 ways to know that you are an Empath.

While this may seem to be a very new concept within the world of language it is not something that we are unfamiliar with. Mother’s are very aware that their babies react to their moods, if mum is upset the kids are upset, if mum is happy the kids are happy, this would surely be due to the fact that babies are very good at reading energy and the emotions of everyone around them. 

In fact if you get the chance to anytime soon watch how a baby watches the world around it, you may notice that they tend to gaze above your head rather than looking directly at you, I experienced this with my own babies and funnily enough, my cats now do the same thing.

What is it that they are looking at? They are looking at your Aura, your energy field that surrounds your whole psychical body, it is from here that they can determine perhaps what is going on with you. If you think of your Aura as being colour and let’s connect this to Love, most of us would agree that the colour of Love would be a soft shade of pink with perhaps subtle differences of shades. Let’s now think about anger, when you think about the energy of anger what colour comes to mind for you? For me, I see very dark red and black as the colours of anger. So babies can not only see those colours as they are shifting and changing within our energy fields they can also feel exactly what it is that we are feeling, babies are pure energetic beings, they have not learned how to be any other way yet, they unlearn their natural abilities the longer that they are around all of us “grown ups”. So whether or not you are consciously aware of it you came into this world a natural Empath and a highly sensitive intuitive Being of pure love.

Some of you have perhaps lost your awareness of this natural ability as you plunged deeply into your Human experience. Many of us, however, have maintained this natural ability right throughout our lives and while we not have been consciously aware of what was happening we have certainly been impacted greatly throughout our lives by this ability.

For as long as I can remember I have always been able to feel what others felt although I did not realise at the time that this was what I was happening. As a result of having this awareness, I became a professional people pleaser, as I would come close to someone who was unhappy, angry, sad or whatever emotion that they were feeling I would instantly think that I must have done something to cause the pain that was within them. This is the very essence of a people pleaser who is an Empath, all of your energy goes into trying to make the other person feel happy so that you can feel ok. Granted we’re are not aware that this is what we are doing we just know that we need to do whatever it takes to make the people around us feel good so that we can feel safe and loved.

Not my drama, not my monkey, is a saying and a state of being that I did not learn the benefit of until I was well into my 30’s. So yes, by my 30’s, I was well and truly a professional people pleaser.

A huge awakening for me in this was recognising that all that my people pleasing was doing was trying to control how everyone around me was feeling in order for myself to be ok. I have learned now that if I focus my attention now on my own wellbeing, my own happiness, and my own energy then I am not as impacted now by others around me, and in those moments when I am I now make a point of turning my energetic gaze inward to myself and trust that all that the other beautiful soul needs will be provided to them. I have learned to embrace being an Empath and I no longer see this as a curse by any means in my life. I now recognise this as my gift in my life as a Highly Intuitive person, a Medium and a Healer.

Being an Empath now supports me in being able to pick up on what is really going on with a client. It means now that I know instantly when something is not working or when they have a huge shift.  It means now that when I am doing a reading I know internally exactly who this individual is inside and out. It means as a healer, I know precisely where in a persons life that they are out of alignment. As you can see this ability comes in very handy and is the reason why I can do my work as well as what I do.

Being an Empath is now my super power.

My advice to you if you answer yes to the questions below is to “Know Thyself”. There is a reason that you see this saying so much in all of the Spiritual Texts. The more that you know yourself the more easily it is for you to determine if what you are feeling is yours or the world around you.

Meditation plays two vital roles for me as an Empath, firstly I understand myself on a much deeper level and have a lot more Empathy, compassion and love for myself, therefore when I am encountering another energy I can recognise it and say “Thankyou for releasing all that does not belong to me”

Secondly – As an Empath, it is easy to become drained when in the presence of others, so taking a few moments to go within, to focus on your breath helps you to reenergise and get grounded really quickly. This allows me the freedom to be an Empath and to use this to my benefit in a healthy way.

Learning to say no with love and without the fear of rejection has definitely helped me turn the corner as a people pleaser.  Getting out in Nature or even just taking 5 minutes outside to breathe fresh air is incredibly empowering to an Empath.  Taking time to recharge by having scheduled “alone” time is vitally important. Take 10 deep conscious breaths before reaching for the food or ciggie that you perhaps use to numb your emotions. Have a cleansing bath once a week of Epsom salts, Bicarb soda and lavender oil to cleanse and release all of that picked up energy.

Here is a quick quiz courtesy of the fabulous Judith Orloff MD to see if you are an Empath…

Ask yourself:

Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive? If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too? Are my feelings easily hurt?

Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?

Do my nerves get jarred by noise, smells, or excessive talk?

Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?

Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?

Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships?

If you answer “yes” to 1-3 of these questions, you’re at least part empath. Responding “yes” to more than 3 indicates that you’ve found your emotional type. Recognising that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them.

Staying on top of empathy will improve your self-care and relationships. So, if this has resonated with you on a deep level and you have recognised yourself within these words then perhaps begin implementing some of the strategies that have helped me learn to be a proactive Empath rather than being at the effect of this ability.

Blessings

Kerryn

xxx

How understanding Law of Attraction has changed my life.

I honestly believe that on an energetic level we all have an understanding of Law of Attraction. It is a knowing that we are born with, an innate wisdom, a superpower, and a tool that we are gifted with coming into this human life.

As with all of our natural abilities and talents that we bring into life with us they are conditioned out of us before we really even have a chance to put our superpowers into practice.

I remember back in the day when I was a kid and there was no such thing as the internet or mobile phones. We had the old fashioned dial phones, so I would sit on the floor in front of the phone and visualise the person that I wanted to speak to. I would visualise them picking up their phone and calling me, I would then visualise myself picking up the phone and the two of us speaking. Usually within 5 minutes the phone would call and it would be exactly who I wanted to speak to. Of course, I thought that this was a pretty awesome super power to have and while I have the knowledge of this ability I really didn’t put it into practice actively or consciously in my life. Perhaps you can even relate also to feeling some form of power within you as a child but and just not knowing what it was.

That is to say that I have always had the belief within me that I can create what I want in my life, I just haven’t understood how to harness this intentionally.  It’s always been a little like playing the lotto sometimes you win sometimes you don’t.

In 2006 I read a little book called the Secret and watched the movie that went along with it. I will never forget one day my daughter had to be in Melbourne for a choir day, back then we didn’t have a lot of money and we hadn’t put petrol in the car, so I put the Secret practices into place, I was able to manifest random money that I didn’t know that I had, and all the way to Melbourne there was not a single car or traffic on the road because I just visualised a clear flow all of the way. I felt completely and powerfully in the flow of the Universe throughout this time, needless to say it was so unbelievable that my hubby turned to me with a fearful look on his face and said “What the hell is going on” too cause this triggered within me up an ancient fear of my own “power” and so I stopped actively using it. (This in itself is a whole other story).

I lovingly call 2014 my period of re awakening, a time when I stepped out of my self imposed darkness and into the service of the Universe. From that moment until now I feel as though the Universe has taken me on a huge crash course to bringing me up to speed with where I should be in my life. Reconnecting with and understanding the energy of Law Of Attraction has been an instrumental part of this journey.

During this time I was guided to Esther Hicks in 2014, if you don’t know her she is an amazing Human Being who channels a collective consciousness that calls themselves Abraham. I literally stumbled across Esther’s work on YouTube and I was instantly hooked. Her words and the way that she explained Law of Attraction awakened that long forgotten knowing within me.

Here are some examples of how I have put LOA into place in my life since then…

I decided that I was going to visit my sister in Canada, so my story that I told everyone was that I was going to visit her in that year, the story that I was telling myself or the Universe was, Universe I am going to visit my sister and I have no idea how I am going to manage this I just know that I am going.

Needless to say I bought my tickets, then kept up with my mantra, thanks Universe I am so excited to be visiting my sister not sure how anything else is going to happen but I know that you have got this sorted. Happily, all of the funds that I needed to go and visit my sister appeared for me and I was able to go and have one of the most amazing times of my life.

Also in 2014, while searching the internet I stumbled over a place in the UK called Arthur Findlay College. This is a college purely for the study of Psychic Science and Mediumship. Of course, my first reaction when I saw this was “yeah right as if I could ever go there” Then stated “Ok Universe if I am meant to go here, then I know that you will make it happen for me” Not really believing that the opportunity would arise but ever hopeful that somehow it would one day happen.

Unbelievably through a series of events by the December of 2014 this became a very real reality for me. I met a woman at a fete who was telling me all about this place called Arthur Findlay college and low and behold she was going, I thanked the Universe for the time when I would too be able to do this and then let it go. A few months later I caught up with a friend of mine who also mentioned that she too was going, and going on the same trip as the woman that I had recently met, we talked about how awesome if would be if I were going, and again I said thank you to Universe, and it went something like this “Thank you Universe, I have no idea how, I just know that one day I will go here and thank you for making it happen for me” In December of that year the woman that I had met previously advised me that there was a cancellation within the tour and that I should consider going. Again, I had no idea how on earth I would be able to manifest not only the funds, but also the time off from work as well as the support of my family to do this. Luckily for me, I had a session with a beautiful coach who really helped me to identify exactly how I would feel with and without the outcome that I was wanting, she helped me to get really clear on how important it was for me and to identify that it really didn’t need to happen right now, it could actually happen the following year with more time for planning.

As I left the session I felt completely free of my attachment of going on this trip, I thanked the Universe for bringing it to me, again I said, “I have no idea how, I just know that I will when the time is right and thank you for making it happen for me”

That evening when my hubby got home from work, he uttered the most amazing words to me “Ok let’s work out how we can make this happen” and YES you guessed right the following July I was on a plane to the UK. I have many more stories just like those that have happened for me and continue to happen for me.

There are important fundamental keys in understanding and playing with Law of Attraction.

• The Universe loves you and wants you to have everything that you ask for.
• The Universe does not understand the word no, no thanks, don’t, won’t can’t, etc.
• The moment that you ask for something the Universe is already making it happen for you.
• Everything is energy.
• How you feel about a subject 100% effects the outcome. eg: I felt deep within my soul that somehow what I wanted would happen and that’s all I focused on.
• Your beliefs about your outcome 100% create your outcome. If you are asking the Universe for what you want, and you don’t really believe that it can happen, or you are instead focusing on the lack of it, then what you are wanting cannot be received by you. When you let what you want go, see it, feel it, hear it, know it to be so with every fibre of your being and then let it go it 100% occurs for you and usually a lot sooner than you had anticipated.
• Keep your vibrations high enough to match the frequency of the fabulousness that you are wanting to bring into your life
• Feel deep appreciation for all that you already have in your life right now – this sends the signal out into the world that you abundant.
• Trust that you are worthy of receiving all that you are asking for.
• Say Thank you to the Universe as though it has already happened.

This is what I know to for sure:

• In any given moment in any given aspect of our lives we are only ever limited by our own beliefs.
• There is no source outside of ourselves that is preventing us from having what we want in life, it all comes from within.
• How we feel and how we think is the driving force behind everything that shows up in our life.
• The story that you are telling yourself today is the movie that you will be watching tomorrow. This is my most recent example of how powerful story telling can be. I am going again to visit my sister in Canada, instead of telling everyone how excited I was about this, I felt it necessary for there to be a reason that I was going. Yes I know you would think that the fact that I miss my sister and want to spend time with her would be enough wouldn’t it… Apparently not so, I have been telling everyone that I have spoken to for the last few months that I will probably end up helping my sister move house while I am over there and that she could really do with my help. What do you think happened when my sister put her house on the market??? It sold within two days of going on the market and settlement is right in the middle of my stay. So guess what!! I am going to be helping my sister move house lol Of course that is totally fine and I don’t mind one little bit, but how powerful was that story that I was telling the Universe. A Universe who by the way eavesdrops on everything that you think, feel and say. So now I am being far more mindful of the story that I am telling and I make sure that it is the one that I actually want in my life.
• What you put out into the world you receive back from the world. Feel in need of more love then give more love to yourself and those around you. Not feeling supported by life, then be more supportive to yourself and those around you. Do you often wish that you received more acknowledgement and compliments? Have a look at how you do this with yourself and others around you, if you discover that you don’t do it at all then that’s what life is showing you. Thank you Universe for revealing to me in deep clarity all that I need to see in order to live my life to the fullest.

Blessings
Kerryn
xxx

What is your worry addiction trying to reveal to you?



Are you that person when everything in your life is coming up roses, you are blissfully in the flow of life, the roses are blooming, it’s blue skies, the sun is shining endlessly and butterflies are fluttering all around you and all that you can think of is SHIT did I leave the iron on.

Granted you may have once left your iron on and the potentiality of your home burning down was very real, but lets be honest most irons now have a built In turn off if left unattended for a certain period of time.



I am here today holding my hand up in ownership that I am addicted to worry. 

It is the constant churning in your belly.

The endless feeling of – I have forgotten something
Always questioning – Did I lock the front door? 
It’s having that awful feeling of – mmm am I meant to be somewhere
The panic of thinking OMG what day is it and what am I meant to be doing.

This conditioning started early in life for me, as the eldest sister of 3 brothers and one sister I took on the mothering role at a very young age.

I would worry whenever we were somewhere that they would get lost.

I would worry whenever they were doing something they shouldn’t be that they would get hurt.

I would worry that if we were naughty they would get in trouble.

I constantly worried that if I wasn’t there with them then something might happen
Don’t get me wrong my mother was absolutely more than capable but clearly from somewhere I embraced this belief.

This pattern of behaviour really then just followed me throughout my life and I have just transferred this pattern of worry from my siblings to my children.

What is it then that this feeling of worry really gives to any of us?



The constant churning in most cases if the fight or flight response that never gets turned off.

Its the rush of adrenaline that you think keeps you going.

It’s the underlying belief that things are too good to be true and do I really deserve this level of happiness.

It’s that old saying of waiting for the other shoe to drop.

It’s that saying of it’s too good to be true
It’s the belief somewhere inside all of us that maybe we really don’t deserve to be happy.

It’s the flawed fundamental belief within us that we aren’t good.


Years of marketing strategists and consumerism that has conditioned us to believe that we cant possibly be happy unless we have X,Y & Z.

What is the effect that this has on the body?
Fight or flight secretes the stress hormone serotonin into our bodies.
Constant Adrenaline results in Adrenal fatigue.

What is in this moment that worry is actually doing for you?

I love this concept by Gay Hendricks
1. Worry arises
2. Recognise it as a worry thought
3. Can you take immediate action right now? 
4. Then ask yourself “Is this really true”?
5. Shift your focus to more positive states of being like gratitude and appreciation

What is the underlying beneath the worry, what is it that is trying to be revealed to you?

Gay speaks of doing this and it so totally resonates with me in a huge way.


There is a fine line between fear and excitement, the only difference is that you breathe life into excitement and starve fear of oxygen.


Firstly sit and feel the worry as an energy in your body
Ask yourself can I take action on this right now ? 


Breathe deeply into the energy of worry 
Allow whatever it is underneath that is trying to come up, come up.


Example 

I am leaving soon to visit my sister in Canada.



When I think of this I become overwhelmed with worry.

What is the surface worry 
That I am leaving my family here
Will they be ok and function without me? ABSOLUTELY!

Can I take any action to change this – NO they are more than capable of looking after themselves.

What is the feeling beneath this that is wanting to come up.

As I breathe into this worry the underlying feeling is one of pure excitement.

I love my sister dearly and being apart from her plays on my heart.

I am beyond excited to be spending this amazing time with her. 

So really my feeling is not worry but pure excitement.


My addiction to my worry thoughts had I just stopped with the worry of leaving my family would not have allowed the space for my incredible excitement which is a far better emotion to be filling my body to arise. 



Taking time each day to really breathe deeply, at work in your lunch hour, in the morning before you start your day and definitely at the end of your day is a way that you can switch off your fight or flight response. 



Breathing deeply into the energy of worry and asking those few important questions can reveal to you a much deeper and rewarding experience in your day.



My choice is the feeling of excitement over worry and this is an active exercise that I will continue doing in my daily life whenever I find myself slipping into the all too comfortable sensation of worry.

Blessings
Kerryn
Xxx