Spread your wings and fly

As a child, I always felt that I should be able to fly.
There was an aspect of myself within that wanted to be free, to feel the air rushing at my face and the feeling of soaring on the thermals of air around me.
It felt constrictive to be stuck on the ground and trapped in my body.
At night the only way that I could drift into sleep was to imagine that I was leaving my body out through the top of my head, and then floating in the air above my body.

This would instantly relax me, I felt free and I could do summersaults above my body.
Sometimes this would last for a while and at others, I would come back into my body with a thud.

I now know that this was the Spirit essence of myself leaving my physical body. In other words, a form of astral travel.

As I got older it felt as though my wings had been clipped and I became more connected to my physicalness.

I have also watched this play out in children, my son when he was 4 wanted a superman outfit.
I remember seeing his disappointment when the cape didn’t work and he couldn’t fly.

We are all born with a remembering of expansiveness, free from physicalness and able to move through space and time.

Then as we become more anchored in our physical forms we forget that we are more than just the bodies that we came into this life with.

Over time we become invested in the belief of our limitlessness, we forget that we are eternal beings living a human experience, we lose touch with our natural intuition and begin to live our lives through the beliefs, thoughts and opinions of the world around us.

We start the journey of seeking outside of ourselves to better understand who we are, becoming defined in our identity based on what others tell us who and what we should be.

A child spreads his or her wings, dancing and singing in their own joy until someone tells them they are too loud or annoying.
They then decide at that moment that they should be seen and not heard.
More often than not this then becomes their life cycle, a life of keeping quiet, staying small and changing all of who they were born to be to keep others around them happy.
So that they can feel safe in the world.
These children then become adults who have essentially had their wings clipped.

What children don’t always realise at that young age is that the adult could have simply been having a bad day, was stressed about work/money/relationship and just needed space to think.

The message, however, has already embedded into the subconscious of that child. Being me makes others unhappy.

This is a cycle that is repeated throughout all of our lives.
We express who we are, and then determine if this is acceptable based on the reactions around us.

As an adult, the messages throughout our lives have become so mixed up in our belief systems that identifying who you really are can feel as difficult as finding a needle in a haystack.

Fear of failure becomes the norm, holding you back from fully investing in yourself or life.
The pain of making a wrong decision keeps you stuck in the same place for years, unable to make a choice one way or the other.
This often leads to patterns of behaviour that numb that pain.
The regret of not having done something sooner can be just as crippling and becomes the belief that it is too late.

What I have come to believe is that it is never too late to spread your wings and fly.
In fact, I honestly feel that it is later in life that you have the perfect opportunity to do so.

I started my business at 44, before this, my favourite saying was “I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up”
I can now recognise that this was the perfect timing in my life to do so.
Everything that I did prior to this was preparing me for when I was ready to be who I wanted to be, and not what I thought everyone else wanted me to be.

I realise now that my wings weren’t formed enough for me to fly until then.

This, of course, does not mean that there isn’t opportunity or room for further growth.
We live in an ever changing, evolving and expansive Universe, we never stay the same, we are continuously changing and growing even if we are not consciously aware of it.

We are constantly discovering new things about ourselves, our tastes change, our view of the world changes, our opinions change all based on our growth and life experiences.

Unlike the butterfly, we are blessed to have many years to emerge from the chrysalis, to spread our wings and fly.

The question to ask yourself is are you hiding in your cocoon out of fear or out of preparation?

The greatest lesson that I have learned is that doing something is far healthier than doing nothing.

Taking a leap of faith and trying something equates to growth.
Forward momentum in anything that you do will lead you into the direction that is right for you.

There are no failures only learning.
When you try something and it doesn’t work, it simply means that a new direction is needed.
This is not a failure, it is more like realignment and recalibration, turning you in the direction of what best suits you.

If you never discover what doesn’t work for you, then how will you ever know what does?

You were born with wings to fly, keeping them caged or clipped does not serve you or the world.

Be brave enough to try, each time that you do your wings unfurl, testing the air around you.

If they aren’t spread wide, how will you ever catch the perfect thermal?

They say that it is better to have loved than to never have loved at all.

So isn’t it better to have flown than to have never flown at all?



Start 2021 with a Fresh Commitment to Meditating Daily

There are many misconceptions out there around meditation.
Meditation does not require that you be sitting in a cave sitting in the lotus position.
Meditation doesn’t mean that you no longer think or float endlessly within the infinite blackness of space of no thought – this, of course, is true for the monks who spend 12 hours a day for years to achieve this state. 

For the rest of us though, it is a state that we can experience, albeit fleetingly, I have achieved this state, however the moment I became aware of it, I was no longer in it.

Meditation takes many forms and can occur spontaneously.
It is a state of acute awareness and presence.

Have you ever experienced a moment of awe?
A moment of witnessing such beauty that it took your breath away?
A moment where time felt as though it stood still?

In those moments, all thought ceases, and you become one with the experience.
At that moment, you become fully present.

There is too much scientific research to ignore the fact that a regular meditation practice improves your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.

We are moving into an age where heart centredness, compassion and unity are words and intentions that are becoming ingrained in our everyday language.

2020 has been an opportunity for us to reconnect with our hearts wisdom and intelligence, a time to get out of our heads and tune in to the needs of your soul.

As we move into 2021, we are being guided to live from that heart centred space, this means, making decisions that are in alignment with your heart, your values, and your integrity.

Meditation has taught me the importance of this, not only does it improve your emotional and physical wellbeing it also provides you with the space to tune into the intuitive guidance of your heart.

The way to integrate a new habit or daily ritual and have it ingrained into your subconscious is to do something for a minimum of 30 days.

I also believe that to know yourself on a deeper level it requires nurturing a healthy relationship.
If you want to get to know someone, you take time out of your schedule to meet with them, you have regular conversations with them and you ask questions.

This practice has provided me with a greater sense of self, increased intuition, and emotional wellbeing.

My invitation to you is to follow the below steps each day, the subconscious mind loves repetition, and repetition is conducive to lasting change.

Create a sacred space

Choose a place to meditate each day
Light your favourite candle
Play relaxing music

Daily Practise
Sitting or resting comfortably

  1. Place your hand gently on your heart centre – this activates your heart chakra
  2. Focus your attention on the sounds that you can hear around you, observe these sounds with a gentle curiosity, no need to label, just observe
  3. Are there any aromas that you can you smell? 
  4. How does the temperature of the air feel around you, is it cool or warm?
  5. Notice the sensation of the fabric of your clothing against your skin
  6. Gently shift your attention to the sensation of your feet resting on the ground
  7. Feel the weight of your body where you rest 
  8. Place your full attention and awareness to the top of your head  
  9. Slowly begin moving your awareness from the top of your head all the way down through your body to the tips of your toes, and then move it back up again through your body and place your full attention at your heart centre.  
  10. Feel the gentle rise and fall of your chest beneath your hand with each breath that you take for the count of 10 breaths  
  11. Drop your awareness fully into your heart centre and settle your attention here 
  12. Allow to arise within your hearts awareness the essence or knowing of someone, something, or someplace that you feel deep gratitude for, allow this sense of gratitude to fill your whole heart, your whole body, as your heart expands in gratitude notice how this feels   
  13. Stay with this feeling for a minimum of 5 minutes and increase by 5 minutes each week
  14. With your attention focused on your heart centre, ask “what does my heart want me to know today?”
  15. Take some time to write in your journal all that came up for you.

Doing this exercise daily will provide you with clarity and insight into the needs of your heart, your mind, and your soul.

I have observed so many women who have sat my meditation classes over the years naturally increase their intuition, confidence, and emotional wellbeing through regular meditation.

May you be well
May you be peace
May you be love
May you be free from pain and suffering
May you awaken to the light of your true nature

In love and gratitude