Being an Empath can be your superpower
How I turned being an Empath into my super power
Empath is a word that is widely used now within the 21st century. Every second post that you read on Facey will have either be about an Empath or 5 ways to know that you are an Empath.
While this may seem to be a very new concept within the world of language it is not something that we are unfamiliar with. Mother’s are very aware that their babies react to their moods, if mum is upset the kids are upset, if mum is happy the kids are happy, this would surely be due to the fact that babies are very good at reading energy and the emotions of everyone around them.
In fact if you get the chance to anytime soon watch how a baby watches the world around it, you may notice that they tend to gaze above your head rather than looking directly at you, I experienced this with my own babies and funnily enough, my cats now do the same thing.
What is it that they are looking at? They are looking at your Aura, your energy field that surrounds your whole psychical body, it is from here that they can determine perhaps what is going on with you. If you think of your Aura as being colour and let’s connect this to Love, most of us would agree that the colour of Love would be a soft shade of pink with perhaps subtle differences of shades. Let’s now think about anger, when you think about the energy of anger what colour comes to mind for you? For me, I see very dark red and black as the colours of anger. So babies can not only see those colours as they are shifting and changing within our energy fields they can also feel exactly what it is that we are feeling, babies are pure energetic beings, they have not learned how to be any other way yet, they unlearn their natural abilities the longer that they are around all of us “grown ups”. So whether or not you are consciously aware of it you came into this world a natural Empath and a highly sensitive intuitive Being of pure love.
Some of you have perhaps lost your awareness of this natural ability as you plunged deeply into your Human experience. Many of us, however, have maintained this natural ability right throughout our lives and while we not have been consciously aware of what was happening we have certainly been impacted greatly throughout our lives by this ability.
For as long as I can remember I have always been able to feel what others felt although I did not realise at the time that this was what I was happening. As a result of having this awareness, I became a professional people pleaser, as I would come close to someone who was unhappy, angry, sad or whatever emotion that they were feeling I would instantly think that I must have done something to cause the pain that was within them. This is the very essence of a people pleaser who is an Empath, all of your energy goes into trying to make the other person feel happy so that you can feel ok. Granted we’re are not aware that this is what we are doing we just know that we need to do whatever it takes to make the people around us feel good so that we can feel safe and loved.
Not my drama, not my monkey, is a saying and a state of being that I did not learn the benefit of until I was well into my 30’s. So yes, by my 30’s, I was well and truly a professional people pleaser.
A huge awakening for me in this was recognising that all that my people pleasing was doing was trying to control how everyone around me was feeling in order for myself to be ok. I have learned now that if I focus my attention now on my own wellbeing, my own happiness, and my own energy then I am not as impacted now by others around me, and in those moments when I am I now make a point of turning my energetic gaze inward to myself and trust that all that the other beautiful soul needs will be provided to them. I have learned to embrace being an Empath and I no longer see this as a curse by any means in my life. I now recognise this as my gift in my life as a Highly Intuitive person, a Medium and a Healer.
Being an Empath now supports me in being able to pick up on what is really going on with a client. It means now that I know instantly when something is not working or when they have a huge shift. It means now that when I am doing a reading I know internally exactly who this individual is inside and out. It means as a healer, I know precisely where in a persons life that they are out of alignment. As you can see this ability comes in very handy and is the reason why I can do my work as well as what I do.
Being an Empath is now my super power.
My advice to you if you answer yes to the questions below is to “Know Thyself”. There is a reason that you see this saying so much in all of the Spiritual Texts. The more that you know yourself the more easily it is for you to determine if what you are feeling is yours or the world around you.
Meditation plays two vital roles for me as an Empath, firstly I understand myself on a much deeper level and have a lot more Empathy, compassion and love for myself, therefore when I am encountering another energy I can recognise it and say “Thankyou for releasing all that does not belong to me”
Secondly – As an Empath, it is easy to become drained when in the presence of others, so taking a few moments to go within, to focus on your breath helps you to reenergise and get grounded really quickly. This allows me the freedom to be an Empath and to use this to my benefit in a healthy way.
Learning to say no with love and without the fear of rejection has definitely helped me turn the corner as a people pleaser. Getting out in Nature or even just taking 5 minutes outside to breathe fresh air is incredibly empowering to an Empath. Taking time to recharge by having scheduled “alone” time is vitally important. Take 10 deep conscious breaths before reaching for the food or ciggie that you perhaps use to numb your emotions. Have a cleansing bath once a week of Epsom salts, Bicarb soda and lavender oil to cleanse and release all of that picked up energy.
Here is a quick quiz courtesy of the fabulous Judith Orloff MD to see if you are an Empath…
Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive? If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too? Are my feelings easily hurt?
Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?
Do my nerves get jarred by noise, smells, or excessive talk?
Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?
Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?
Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships?
If you answer “yes” to 1-3 of these questions, you’re at least part empath. Responding “yes” to more than 3 indicates that you’ve found your emotional type. Recognising that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them.
Staying on top of empathy will improve your self-care and relationships. So, if this has resonated with you on a deep level and you have recognised yourself within these words then perhaps begin implementing some of the strategies that have helped me learn to be a proactive Empath rather than being at the effect of this ability.